Leave it to Martha to offer the last word on gift registries. Click on the link below, and learn 🙂

How about sharing some of the best registry items you’ve heard of? I would give a big thumbs up to the following:

– Really good sheets
– Beach chairs, towels and tote
– Rabbit wine opener
– Excellent knives
– Glasses! Red wine, white wine, champagne, beer, and both tall and
short cocktail glasses

I also agree that two stores is the way to go– maybe a combination of high-end and mainstream. Think William Sonoma plus Macy’s, for example. If yours is an e-crowd, try Amazon.

We can’t control the weather…

On this absolutely beautiful weekend, which seems to be about a 10 from coast to coast, I’m reminded of how weather-obsessed we all become as the big day draws near! Many brides are fortunate to have gorgeous wedding days, but those with “weather issues” are no less elated on the big day, and neither are their guests.

If we agree that we can’t control the weather, then what is the point of this post? The point has three parts:

1. When planning your wedding, don’t assume the weather will cooperate. To wit, a beach wedding will be just lovely on a balmy, 70-degree day. But what if wind-swept rain is what you get? What’s your plan B? Remember, even if the last-minute tent has roll-down sides, it can still be pretty miserable under it.

2. When choosing a venue, imagine it in the rain. Do you still love it? My daughter’s venue was on a river, with gorgeous views. But I reminded her to look at the room and picture rain outside. Could she still imagine her reception there? She could.

3. Have a contingency plan for pictures. If it’s pouring or windy and you can’t do your pictures in at the river/garden/beach or wherever you had planned to do them. then what’s the plan? Think about this ahead of time, and plan to take more photos in the church or in a suitable area at your reception site.

…oh, and make sure the limo guys have nice big golf umbrellas in their trunks!

Social media at weddings: yes or no?


As I was waxing righteous about the plus-one situation, I came across a great article by Kim Ode in the Minneapolis Star Tribune. She claims “social media are the new ‘plus one’ at weddings, causing couples how to manage the technology so that friends and relatives don’t morph into Guestzillas.”

Ode considers both sides of this, for there are indeed brides and grooms who can’t wait to see instantaneous postings, given the wait time for professional pix. As Ode says, this is fun for plenty of brides and grooms. Others, however, might freak out a bit if unvetted photos appear, especially from the getting ready period or the ceremony itself.

So, the advice…

*Bride and groom should consider their position on this issue and let it be known
*If you don’t want guests whipping out their iphones during your ceremony, put a line to that effect in your program, or have your officiant asks guests to refrain from using electronic devices
*If you DO want photo sharing, you can create a hashtag handle so you can enjoy all posted photos of the day

My favorite comment from this article comes from wedding photographer Becca Dilley, who says, “I would question why you’re taking photos instead of really being there.” Well said!

For the full article, go to

The RSVP: Regretful? Sarcastic? Very Problematic.

A fun tongue-in-cheek follow-up to my plus-one issues post! Great blog…you should check it out!

I Just Want It To Be Perfect

During my last (admittedly sporadic) session of stalking Twitter for interesting and amusing wedding-related content, I came across this highly entertaining photo of one of the better wedding RSVPs I’ve ever seen:

Now, wedding RSVPs are nobody’s favorite detail — except perhaps for the designers and stationers who cackle gleefully and rub their hands together thinking about all the piles of money they can get out of you for one tiny little square piece of fancy, recycled, eggshell-white paper with scalloped edges. Or whatever you end up using. Still, they’re one of those necessary evils. If you’re planning on having guests at your wedding — and let’s face it, most people are — you’re going to have to figure out how many of them are actually going to show up, where you’re going to exile some of them and for the love of god what you’re going to feed…

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The murky and not-so-murky topic of plus-ones: part one


You open a wedding invitation and see that you have not been given a “plus one.” The proper next-step is to

a. in-box or text the bride immediately to ask if your boyfriend can come
b. write in your boyfriend’s name on the reply card and mail it
c. tell a mutual friend to tell the bride how angry and upset you are
d. respond that you alone will happily attend or regretfully decline

Answer: d…D! And only d. Case closed.

No Gifts, Please. Just a Trip to Hawaii.

I was just beginning to gather my thoughts for a post on registries and gifts, when the blog post (above) caught my eye. When I first heard about the ‘financing the honeymoon’ trend, I was appalled, but now that my daughter has piles of the kinds of registry loot that I received in the 80s, I’ve started to reconsider my position on this. What do YOU think?

I Just Want It To Be Perfect

So we’re all more than familiar with the whole debate surrounding wedding registries: some people love them, some hate them, some people think they’re the height of convenience, others the height of tackiness. They’re more or less an accepted part of weddings at this point, though — the idea, after all, is to help the happy couple begin their lives together and save them the time and potentially marriage-fraying battles over different kinds of cutlery or linens. But what if the happy couple has already been living together for three or five or thirteen years and already has all the fitted sheets their hearts could ever desire?

Well, that’s where the honeymoon registry comes in.

The idea behind the honeymoon registry is essentially a good-hearted one. Let’s say your couple has been dating for eight years, living together for five. They probably have plenty of housewares already, and one more…

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Idea of the Day: A worthwhile favor


Instead of spending hundreds of dollars on personalized candy bars or some other token for your wedding guests, why not make a donation to a favorite charity and make small announcement signs to display at the reception? My daughter and her husband’s donation to the American Cancer Society was made in their grandparents’ names, and we displayed signs at the check-in table, at the bar, and at the gifts table. The signs matched the invitation suite and place cards, and we slipped each into a simple lucite standing frame. Easy to do, and feels good too.

Click on donations link above to see a sample!

6 money-savers for D-I-Y bridal showers

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Sure, it’s nice to imagine helping the bridesmaids host a lavish restaurant affair, but you may decide you can help the girls in the affordability department if you host the shower at someone’s home. There’s really something quite lovely about a backyard bridal shower, as long as the weather cooperates!

Here are three tips for making it affordable without sacrificing fun or flourish:

1. Price club flowers— Places like Costco have amazing fresh-cut flowers every day. Buy a bunch, and then rearrange them in dollar store vases (or vases you might have on hand). Beautiful, fresh centerpieces that allow for a little creativity.

2. A little help from your friends — Mom, ask some friends if they would mind contributing a signature dish– they will most likely be happy to contribute, and there’s nothing better than homemade goodies. For an afternoon shower, an array of finger foods, dips, salads and desserts is probably all you need for a delicious spread. Also, rely on friends and family to help you gather serving pieces, dishes, wine glasses, linens, and anything else you need for entertaining a crowd.

3. Bargain hunt— Once the girls decide on a theme for the shower, put someone in charge of bargain-hunting for paper goods and decorations. Think dollar stores and Target for fun stuff.

4. Servers and clean-up crew— Surely, someone knows a few teenagers who would like to earn a few bucks by helping to set up, serve, and clean up. Calling the pros will exceed $25 an hour; a couple of teenaged girls can be hired for less, and still make a decent wage.

5. Scrap the expensive cake— and offer a fun and less expensive alternative like a sundae bar or s’mores by the fire pit.

6. Trim the guest list— There’s really no need to include every female on the wedding list. Bridal party, close relatives and good friends will make the party a bit more intimate and far less expensive.